THANK U PAIN

Sometimes we must be hurt in order to grow, we must fail in order to know, and we must loose in order to gain because a few lesions are best learnt through pain. How true and beautiful these lines are!

Most of the time we are attracted to the lighter, brighter and happy side of life. But think seriously and deeply and one would realize that most of the glorious achievements are built on the plinth of dark gloomy painful nights. I have gone through biographies of many achievers who created unbelievable success stories. Almost al of them had gone through pangs of failures, rejection, and humiliation etc or had their hearts broke. Emotional trauma created such a power house of energy in them that they could turn around the whole life. They rose like a poenix from the ashes of their burnt dreams! Why talk abut such great achievers ?

I am sure most of us also must have gone through some such emotional crisis which eventually changed our lives. I have discussed with many of my self-made friends and know about many others whose lives changed after facing some serius emotional challenges.

A young shy timid boy in school metamorphosing into a confident and some what aggressive one after being humiliated by Headmaster in front of school gathering for no fault of his.

A careless, playful teenager neglecting his studies totally and passing barely with grace marks turns overnight into a responsible, studious and brilliant student securing distinctions in all subjects ! This happened as he had to shoulder all the responsibilities of family due to transfer of his father to other city. A tender, romantic love story turning into blues and leaving a broken heart.

The young man in question vows to change his life for betterment and does it with a vengeance! A young professional ridiculed by his senior for professional training gets ignited and leaves a trail of achievements in the pursuit of excellence. There is one more interesting story where a simple, honest person not believing in caste system or untouchables etc at all, becomes a victim of a so called Dalit writer for no reason. In revenge he also starts writing and becomes a prolific writer.

There are many such stories around all of us. Almost all self made people have a story to tell which usually starts with some sort of pain they had gone through justifying the proverb “No pains no gains”. Try to remember an old happy incident; it will bring a smile on your face. But now try to remember an insult, humiliation or rejection you have gone through. Even today, it may bring tears in your eye, raise goose pimples and fill you with rage. The energy generated by emotional trauma is far more as compared to pleasant happenings. But sometimes a few people may not tolerate such low times in life and take self-destructive steps. It is to be avoided.

Physical pain is also a big friend. As a doctor, I tell all my patients that pain is their friend and not a foe. Pain is the one which warns us about a problem in body. It is not a disease but a whistle blower which tells about the disease. Take examples of redness and pain in eyes due to some foreign body or conjunctivitis etc.. Angina (Pain in heart) due to reduced blood supply or pain in abdomen due to inflammation of appendix. These are just a few common examples. On the contrary, in conditions like diabetic foot, where there is no pain no sensation, some times, foot may be totally destroyed as the patient fails to take note to damage. Pain is lke barking of your dog which cautious about some intrusion in house. In that circumstance, you are supposed to remove the intruder and not kill the dog for God shake. Pain will disappear once the problem is over.

So next time whenever you are in pain, emotional or physical, don’t get disturbed as you are with a friend. Just say thank you pain and recite my following line….

Mana khwabokhumar is sazaa hai dard
Ashik-o-ashna-e-junuki kazaa hai dard
Zid aur junooni tevar ka baais hai,’kuchh kar guzarne ki vazaa hai dar.

(Agreed that pain is a penalty for seeing big dreams, pain is the destiny of lovers and passionate people, but pain is responsible for stubbornness and single mindedness, and pain is the fuel for fire in belly to achieve something great).

I ASKED GOD

I asked God to take my pain. God say, No
It is not for me to take away,
But for you to give it up….

I asked God to take my handicapped child whole.
God said, No
Her spirit was whole,
Her body was only temporary…

I asked God to grant me patience.
God said, No
Patience is a by-product of tribulations;
It is not granted, it is earned…..

I asked God to give me happiness.
God said, No
I give you blessings.
Happiness is up to you…

I asked God to spare me pain.
God said, No
Suffering draws you apart from worldly cares
And brings you closer to me…

I asked God to make my spirit grow.
God said, No
You must grow on your own,
But I will prune you to make you fruitful…

I asked God for all things that I might enjoy life.
God said, No
I will give you life
So that you may enjoy all things..

I asked God to help me love others.
As much as he loves me.
God said……..
Ahhhhhhhhh finally you have the idea….

Chatt With God

God Bless You
God: Hello. Did you call me?
Me: Called you? No. Who is this?
God: This is GOD. I heard your prayers. So I thought I will chat.
Me: I do pray. Just makes me feel good. I am actually busy now. I am in the midst of something.
God: What are you busy at? Ants are busy too.
Me: Don't know. But I can't find free time. Life has become hectic. It's rush hour all the time.
God: Sure. Activity gets you busy. But productivity gets you results. Activity consumes time. Productivity frees it.
Me: I understand. But I still can't figure out. By the way, I was not expecting YOU to buzz me on instant messaging chat.
God: Well I wanted to resolve your fight for time, by giving you some clarity. In this net era, I wanted to reach you through the medium you are comfortable with.
Me: Tell me, why has life become complicated now?
God: Stop analyzing life. Just live it. Analysis is what makes it complicated.
Me: Why are we then constantly unhappy?
God: Your today is the tomorrow that you worried about yesterday. You are worrying because you are analyzing. Worrying has become your habit. That's why you are not happy.
Me: But how can we not worry when there is so much uncertainty?
God: Uncertainty is inevitable, but worrying is optional.
Me: But then, there is so much pain due to uncertainty..
God: Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.
Me: If suffering is optional, why do good people always suffer?
God: Diamond cannot be polished without friction. Gold cannot be purified without fire. Good people go through trials, but don't suffer. With that experience their life become better not bitter.
Me: You mean to say such experience is useful?
God: Yes. In every term, Experience is a hard teacher. She gives the test first and the lessons afterwards.
Me: But still, why should we go through such tests? Why can't we be free from problems?
God: Problems are Purposeful Roadblocks Offering Beneficial Lessons (to) Enhance Mental Strength. Inner strength comes from struggle and endurance, not when you are free from problems.
Me: Frankly in the midst of so many problems, we don't know where we are heading..
God: If you look outside you will not know where you are heading. Look inside. Looking outside, you dream. Looking inside, you awaken. Eyes provide sight. Heart provides insight.
Me: Sometimes not succeeding fast seems to hurt more than moving in the right direction. What should I do?
God: Success is a measure as decided by others. Satisfaction is a measure as decided by you. Knowing the road ahead is more satisfying than knowing you rode ahead. You work with the compass. Let others work with the clock.
Me: In tough times, how do you stay motivated?
God: Always look at how far you have come rather than how far you have to go. Always count your blessing, not what you are missing.
Me: What surprises you about people?
God: When they suffer they ask, "why me?" When they prosper, they never ask "Why me" Everyone wishes to have truth on their side, but few want to be on the side of the truth.
Me: Sometimes I ask, who am I, why am I here. I can't get the answer.
God: Seek not to find who you are, but to determine who you want to be. Stop looking for a purpose as to why you are here. Create it. Life is not a process of discovery but a process of creation.
Me: How can I get the best out of life?
God: Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear.
Me: One last question. Sometimes I feel my prayers are not answered.
God: There are no unanswered prayers. At times the answer is NO.
Me: Thank you for this wonderful chat. I am so happy to start the New Year with a new sense of inspiration.
God: Well. Keep the faith and drop the fear. Don't believe your doubts and doubt your beliefs. Life is a mystery to solve not a problem to resolve. Trust me. Life is wonderful if you know how to live.